The American education system completely misunderstands how to discipline children, says groundbreaking psychologist
Dr. Ross Greene would rather parents and teachers try to understand their misbehaving children than punish them.
Greene, a clinical child psychologist and associate professor at Virginia Tech, first presented that idea in his 1998 book "The Explosive Child," in which he debuted a program he calls Collaborative & Proactive Solutions.
Today, CPS is poised to revolutionize the way American society treats its behaviorally challenging youngsters.
The conventional model of using carrots and sticks to earn kids' cooperation is inherently flawed, Greene says.
According to Greene, kids who act out, sometimes violently, do so because that's how their brains are wired. They don't necessarily want to misbehave; they just can't help it.
"The most important thing you can do to help your explosive kid be less explosive is to understand why he's explosive in the first place," Greene writes in "The Explosive Child."
That means trading in the time outs and harsh words for direct, focused interaction with a child.
If a boy swears in your classroom, save the conversation until class is over to avoid embarrassing him. If a girl refuses to do her work, have the patience to hear her say why.
In the short term, these techniques are bound to drum up some frustration. ("Can't I just show him who's boss?") But over time the effects are clear: CPS corrects behavior.
According to Mother Jones, putting Greene's system to work at Central School in South Berwick, Maine, helped cut punishment rates in the 2009-2010 school year from 146 disciplines referrals and two suspensions down to 45 referrals and zero suspensions two years later.
The school reached this impressive milestone by taking a different approach to discipline — by "meeting the child's needs and solving problems instead of controlling behavior," principal Nina D'Aran told Mother Jones' Katherine Reynolds Lewis. "That's a big shift."
It could be a big shift for millions more. The latest data shows that roughly 5 million kids have a
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